Men Are Not Always Cruel and Women Are Not Always Oppressed
By
Kaniz Fatma, New Age Islam
27 July
2023
Min
Points:
1. Allah created unique skills and qualities
in all living beings, with intelligence, trade, and artistic abilities.
2. Reform discussions are constructive,
but discretion is needed.
3. It's important to recognize that
both men and women need reformation, as three recent events demonstrate.
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The
All-Mighty Allah created the sky, the earth, and all living beings. Every
species has unique, particular skills and qualities. When we think about it, we
see that if Allah Almighty gave some species-particular characteristics that
made them distinct, He also gave some other beings different attributes. It
becomes obvious that these qualities and skills vary when one considers what
constitutes a human being. Some are intelligent, others have trade or artistic
skills, others are employed in the workforce, and others run their own
businesses. They demonstrate their talents and expertise through their
abilities; some have a greater capacity for this than others. Allah created man
and woman from the same human race and gave them distinct sexual characteristics.
In the Holy Qur'an, it is made very plain that men and women are each other's
comforters and clothing. Both parties received specific and dissimilar
obligations towards one another. If a couple is married, then they both have
certain rights, and in a similar way, the rights of parents, brothers and
sisters, relatives, and neighbours have also been established to ensure the
happiness of the human life system.
Islam has
given women specific rights and obligations towards men, as well as specific
rights and obligations for women. But when these two fail to respect one
another's rights, trouble in the home begins to develop. The departure from
religious instruction is the primary cause of this decline. One hears and reads
a lot about reform talk in this area, and it is a very constructive process
that ought to take place and be beneficial. On this matter, however, discretion
is required. There are many feminist movements taking place now, stories about
how women are oppressed are frequently told, males are constantly held
accountable for everything, and reform initiatives are typically saved for men
rather than women. The topic of reforming women is barely mentioned. I disagree
that men are always to blame for the breakdown of the marriage; I think that
women are frequently to blame as well, even if they are often unaware of it.
This has been observed in numerous instances. Additionally, she files
fabricated charges against her husband and every member of his family,
endangering not only her own life but also the lives of her husband and his
family. There is a lengthy number of these instances, and it would be
challenging to mention them all. As a result, even an oppressed guy is heard in
our society sighing and stating that a woman's voice is heard but a man's voice
is not heard, as if he does not even trust the judicial system.
Reforming
bad men is unquestionably a good thing, but it's also important to change bad
women. Allah Almighty intended women to be a delicate species, yet in modern
culture, some women have invented tales of brutality and cruelty towards their
spouses that make one's soul quake. In order to convince you that males are not
always oppressors and women are not always the targets of oppression and that
both men and women need to undergo reformation, I will share with you a few
recent events.
A
heartbreaking occurrence just happened in Tunisia. A brutal wife kills her
sleeping husband by setting him on fire. According to media sources, Tunisian
police detained a woman in the Raoued neighbourhood after she fatally burned
her sleeping husband. According to a security source, the wife doused her
sleeping husband with petrol. According to the Tunisian newspaper
"Sabah," the woman stated that her husband had been disloyal to her
and had an affair with another woman.
According
to sources, "On July 8, a call from the Civil Protection was received
indicating that a house had caught fire in the Raoued district and a person had
been found inside with terrible burns all over his body. He was rushed to the hospital in critical
condition where he succumbed to his injuries. They continued, saying that the
judicial police teams started looking into the wife after finding a severe burn
injury on her leg and that she later admitted to killing him by dousing him in
fuel and lighting him on fire. The wife claimed to have gleaned access to the
husband's alleged girlfriend's WhatsApp conversations. When he was asleep, she
set him on fire, instantly murdering him. The woman's claim that she started a
fire to kill her spouse is still being looked into.
You must be
thinking about how such violence can occur while Islam has established good
rights for both husband and wife and recommended them to coexist in harmony,
safety, and tolerance. The obvious answer is that it is a result of inaction
and working against Islamic precepts.
Islam is
the subject of debate every day, and there are conversations about changing its
laws. Someone seems to be waiting in the wings for a chance to capitalise on a
Muslim event and prolong it over time. The reports of additional horrors are
subsequently ignored. Islam never justifies cruelty or violence; rather, the
offender is held responsible for his own actions. Aside from Muslims, people of
other religions also indulge in evil.
A similar
situation to the one previously described took place in Telangana's Nirmala
village on July 17, according to Urdu Leaks.
According to the story, a husband had expressed scepticism about his
wife's remarks, and when he became enraged, the wife and her mother violently
murdered him. According to the information, Mankem, 40, of the village of
Nirmala, and Jamuna, 38, got married 15 years ago. Mankem visited his in-laws'
residence on Sunday night. After Mankem had slept off, Jamuna and her mother
beat him mercilessly with sticks on his head and other body parts. Mankem succumbed to his wounds and passed
away right there. An investigation was launched when a case was filed based on
the father of the deceased, Bhumia, who filed the complaint.
The third
terrible incident happened in Korutla, Telangana. According to the Urdu Leaks
post, which is dated July 10, a husband killed himself because he believed his
wife's rebuke humiliated him. Naresh, a 25-year-old inhabitant of Korutla,
married Lakshmi five years ago, according to the source. They also have two
children. The two of them often engaged in conflict. The wife reprimanded him
after the two of them had an argument on Sunday night. Naresh became depressed
as a result and committed himself by jumping into the nearby agricultural
Baoli.
The role of
women is oppressive in the three events stated above. But it is a big pity that
one-sided conferences and programmes are created today, sometimes trying to
create the idea that women are always oppressed and that all problems and
oppression are the fault of males. It has a lot of detrimental impacts on our
culture, and the next generation of women views men negatively. Therefore, when
it comes to women's rights, we need to reform both men's and women's rights.
Men's rights and marriage reform should be explored as well so that both
partners can learn to fulfil their obligations and experience true love in a
marriage.
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Kaniz Fatma is a classic Islamic scholar and a
regular columnist for New Age Islam.
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