Marriage Is Highly Valued In Islam; the Holy Prophet Himself Lived a Married Life and Imparted Its Teaching to His Followers
1. Through marriage, a person is protected from a number of sins.
2. It is important to emphasise that Allah has elevated marriage to the status of worship rather than just a way to gratify human desires.
3. Marriage purifies and sanctifies our brains and emotions.
4. People who have negative views on marriage also have poor views of the chaste marriages of others.
5. They are unaware that the real cause of their way of thinking is their ongoing adherence to a number of wrongs.
By Kaniz Fatma, New Age Islam
31 August 2022
The word Nikah is derived from the root word Na-ka-ha (Nakaha Yankihu), which means "having intercourse and getting married". Istankaha ("to marry"), Ankaha ("to get someone wedded"), and Tanaakaha ("to marry each other") are its derivatives. In both Arabic and Urdu, the word "Nikah" is frequently used. In Urdu, Nikah also has several synonyms, such as Shaadi and Vivah. Nikah is referred to as marriage in English. In Islamic jurisprudence, Nikah is a contract between two people. Both the groom and the bride are to consent to the marriage of their own free will. A formal, binding contract – verbal or on paper – is considered integral to a religiously valid Islamic marriage, and outlines the rights and responsibilities of the groom and bride
Marriage is highly valued in Islam. The Holy Prophet himself lived a married life and imparted its teachings to his followers. Through marriage, a person is protected from a number of sins. It is established by the hadiths of the Saheehain (the two most trustworthy hadith books, Bukhari and Muslim), that doing good deeds strengthens and perfects one's faith, and since marriage is a way to engage in good deeds, it is not incorrect to assert that getting married also serves these purposes.
Marriage aids in preserving modesty, purity, and protection from malicious thoughts and intentions. Marriage is a means of achieving piety and cleanliness. It purifies human minds and hearts. A man and a woman's close connection is validated by marriage, which not only affords them both peace and happiness but also allows them the chance to deeply comprehend one another's thoughts and feelings. Then they both start to confide in one another and help each other when facing intellectual, mental, practical, and psychological problems.
For a happy and successful marriage, it is essential to recognise the value of marriage as a great blessing from Allah Almighty.
Few individuals recognise the significance of marriage in our society. It is impossible to envision a successful and pleasant married life in the true sense unless the advantages of this tremendous blessing are appropriately recognised in our society. Because of the low level of knowledge in our culture, the majority of us are unable to fully understand the advantages and disadvantages of marriage. Because of our overall perspective on marriage, we believe that it consists solely of a woman being married to a man, feeding the guests, and presenting gifts and congratulations to the couple's in-laws.
This much is common among the masses, but Islam has introduced a deeper understanding of marriage that the majority of us are unaware of. This idea is unquestionably more significant since marriage is essential to the development of a just and civilised society and provides access to a wealth of religious and global rewards, including closer ties to God.
It is crucial to remember that marriage serves as more than merely a vehicle for satisfying human needs; rather, Allah Ta'ala has elevated it to the position of one of the factors that contribute to worship. Allah Almighty proclaimed marriage to be legal in all faiths even before the advent of Islam. In the Holy Qur'an and via the words of His Beloved Prophet, Allah Almighty encouraged His slaves to get married (peace be upon him). Numerous instances in the Qur'an and Sunnah explain the beauties and advantages of marriage, some of which are included here.
Nikah is the Sunnah of the Prophets
Marriage is also the Sunnah of the Prophets. Allah Almighty said in the Holy Qur'an: “We have certainly sent messengers before you ˹O Prophet˺ and blessed them with wives and offspring. It was not for any messenger to bring a sign without Allah’s permission. Every destined matter has a ˹set˺ time.” (13:38)
This verse of the Holy Qur'an makes it very obvious that the Prophets too had wives, children, and families.
The Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) is reported to have said: "Four items are among the Sunnah of the Prophets (peace be upon them): Modesty, applying alcohol-free perfume, utilising Miswak, and marriage." (Tirmidhi, vol.1, p.206)
Marriage is one of the Sunnahs of the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), as he stated in a hadith: "Marriage is one of my Sunnahs." (Bukhari, Kitab al-nikah)
Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever Allah provides with a righteous wife, Allah has assisted him in half of his religion. Let him fear Allah regarding the second half.” (Source: al-Mu’jam al-Awsaṭ 992)
Marriage brings about mental and spiritual serenity for the individual. The Holy Qur'an itself has made this point in a very pleasant way:
“It is He who created you from one soul and created from it its mate that he might dwell in security with her. And when he covers her, she carries a light burden and continues therein. And when it becomes heavy, they both invoke Allah, their Lord, "If You should give us a good [child], we will surely be among the grateful.” (7:189)
This verse declares that women are a wonderful gift from Allah and comfort to man. A man who values this gift will live a prosperous and contented life and will so develop into a thankful servant of Allah. This wonderful gift can be obtained through nikah. Therefore, anyone who tries to reject the Nikah may suffer negative repercussions, and there is a chance that the entire system may be disrupted.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Whoever loves my nature, should follow my Sunnah, and marriage is one of my Sunnahs." (Majmauz Zawaid 4/327)
Even if I only had ten days left to live, Hazrat Ibn Masoud Radiyallahu Anhu remarked, "I would prefer to get married so that I would not stand before God in an unmarried state." (Tuhfatul Uroos)
“Get married, since one day of wedded life is preferable to many years of worshipping while single”, said Hazrat Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him).
Since the time of Hazrat Adam (peace be upon him) and up till the present, people have recognised the importance of marriage. Marriage has never been outlawed by any nation, religion, or state, according to historical records. Every religion and culture has condemned the relationship between a man and a woman throughout history as having bad morals in the absence of marriage and its prescribed rituals and practices. So, traditionally, a man and a woman's relationship before marriage has been seen negatively. Even though there are different customs and traditions regarding marriage in each religion and nation, the importance of marriage has been recognised by all.
However, some people nowadays do not value marriage. Some monastics believe that marriage prevents them from developing morally and spiritually. Some people choose to become Sannyasis. In other words, they place the highest value on remaining unmarried. These ideas and opinions, however, actually run counter to both human nature and the natural order of things.
Everyone can agree that this evidence supports the notion that those who believe that marriage is immoral and insist that eternal separation from women is necessary for spiritual advancement are typically overcome by human desires and natural passions, fall into a variety of moral vices and have been observed engaging in unethical behaviour as well as suffering negative outcomes.
Some people in the modern period, particularly those who have been influenced by western beliefs and ideologies, fail to understand the necessity and significance of marriage. They hold that a man has the right to all forms of freedom and that he does not necessarily need to get married in order to satisfy his natural impulses and needs, but rather, he can do so whatever he pleases without marriage.
Some people only use one another for a predetermined period of time to satisfy their sexual demands, enjoy themselves, and then part ways, even when they have the intention of getting married. These people have turned marriage into a game and a public show. Some people have become so accustomed to dating that they have no issues remaining alone for an extended period of time.
The respect and love that family members have for one another, however, is waning as a result of all these circumstances. Parent-child relationships are also eroding. And responsible people are equally worried and working hard to protect their society from these problems.
The point being made here is that those who view marriage negatively or as a way to satiate their sexual appetites also have the same perspective on other people's chaste marriages. They are unable to comprehend that through engaging in a variety of wrongdoings and immoral behaviours, they have truly developed this way of thinking.
They have been exposed to so many modern sins that their brains have been polluted to the point that they are willing to call the Prophets' marriage into question and even believe it to be unethical.
How are they supposed to realise that marriage is utilised for righteous and pious purposes as well? They will continue to have unfavourable thoughts about marriage as long as they do not understand its sanctity, importance, and necessity.
Kaniz Fatma is a classic Islamic scholar and a regular columnist for New Age Islam.
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