Divorce as A Phenomenon and How Men Contribute to Its Practice
By
Kaniz Fatma, New Age Islam
29
September 2023
If We
Want to Stop the Causes of Divorce Trend, Men Must Take the Initiative
Main
Points
1. The article
discusses the rise in divorce rates as a result of the failure of men and
parents to teach them family and married life duties.
2. Men should
adopt a more compassionate approach to their wives.
3. Respect and
love are vital for a happy family, as they enhance a wife's mental and physical
health, making her appearance more beautiful and loving.
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I
previously wrote about how one of the causes of the increased divorce rate is
women's stubbornness. I also discussed how to deal with this propensity, which
says that women should face difficulties kindly, patiently, and with fortitude
before letting them go. It is vital for them to comprehend that many problems
can be solved as a consequence of their kind and persevering efforts,
especially the suffering that their children will experience in the future.
However, if they show intolerance and intransigence, not only will their life
be harmed, but so will their children's. They will also miss out on someone
who, despite his occasional fits of rage, loved them.
In the
modern era, when it is simple to survey the state of the world, there are many
social media platforms, and it is quite simple for us to know that many women
are facing greater challenges following divorce. Therefore, the goal of the
previous essay was to demonstrate if the occasional pains that arise during the
different stages of marriage can be handled with tolerance and patience. If
women put an end to their stubbornness, they would be shielded from several
significant sufferings in the future. If they demonstrate stubbornness in front
of their husbands, the outcome might be divorce, which will put them in a lot
of trouble and make them the ones who will be held responsible rather than
someone else.
In this
article, I will briefly discuss how our males are contributing to the rising
divorce rate. Our men are evolving in this way in part as a result of their
parent's failure to teach them how to manage the duties of family and married
life, especially while they were young enough to be married. Today, in the era
of social media and widespread mobile usage, we see that parents are so
preoccupied with social media that they are unable to raise their children
morally and instead simply enrol them in educational institutions where moral
education receives no attention and only professional education is prioritised.
Some
Suggestions for A Spouse Who Disregards His Wife's Rights
I have
heard a lot of women share their experiences with abusive husbands while
talking about family-related topics. There are some ladies who endure
oppression patiently for the benefit of their children. Some women find that
their husbands' increasing harshness compels them to file for divorce, choosing
to do so over remaining in an intolerable marital nest.
I do not
deny that some of these ladies, despite the horrible treatment they receive
from their husbands, can turn their miserable lives into happy ones if they so
choose. However, they do not do so. This can be attributed to a lack of
knowledge, unconsciousness, or training. She either insists on her demands
because she wants to lead a very simple and pleasant life or because she is not
psychologically prepared to make any kind of compromises. She subsequently
endures more abuse from her vindictive spouse. We do not hold men to be
blameless, despite the fact that women lack these skills. Rather, because of
their nasty behaviour, males are partly to blame for the growth of the divorce
trend.
Men must
take the lead if we are to reverse the divorce trend. Men should be aware that
a woman chooses a man who sees the world through her eyes, empathises with her,
and treats her kindly over a wealthy and attractive man. If a man approaches
his wife with kindness and affection, she will be willing to make any
sacrifices for him and he may demand whatever he wants.
Just as a husband's
honour is more vital than everything else, talking to a wife with love can be
more significant than having money. To maintain your family happy, it is
crucial that both partners reciprocate love and respect. Praise from you will
make your wife more beautiful and loving. Your wife's mental and physical
health will be strengthened and the feminine centres in her mind will light up
as you gaze lovingly into her eyes more frequently.
Whoever
refers to his wife affectionately is the smartest husband. A decent husband
gives his wife security instead of instilling worry and anxiety. A husband
should realise that advising his wife to alter her behaviours serves no use as
long as he remains rigid and inflexible. As Allah Almighty commanded: "And
treat them with kindness" (An-Nisa: 19), husbands must fear Allah
Almighty in order to treat their wives well and compassionately. In addition to
exercising their rights to the fullest extent possible, all husbands have a
duty to treat their spouses with kindness, propriety, patience, and honour.
Such treatment is the only approach that can halt the rising divorce trend.
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Kaniz Fatma is a classic Islamic scholar and a
regular columnist for New Age Islam.
URL: https://newageislam.com/islamic-society/divorce-phenomenon-contribute-practice/d/130784