By
Cheti Praxides
February
27, 2021
With
anal sex being reported in marriages in Lamu as an alternative to vaginal sex
during menstruation, a sheikh, a pastor and sex therapists weigh in on the
topic.
The
consensus is that it is an anathema to spiritual beliefs, though one
denomination makes some allowance for it.
Sheikh
and Muslim scholar Abdalla Ware of Witu in Lamu West explains why the Shiite
and Sunni hold varied reservations on why anal sex should not happen at all.
Ware
says according to Sunni Islam, anal intercourse is haram, even if the
husband and wife mutually agree on it, because mutual agreement does not allow
something that has been made haram in Sunni hadith.
He
says the same ruling applies for heterosexual relationships, like the case of a
married couple who might perform it as an alternative while the wife is
menstruating.
He
says when married, it is rightful and obligatory for the husband and the wife
to mutually fulfil their needs, but only by upholding the guidance of Hadith
and the Qur'an.
He
quotes the Holy Quran as follows:
“And
they ask thee concerning menstruation. Say, 'It is a harmful thing, so keep
away from women during menstruation, and go not in unto them until they are
clean. But when they have cleansed themselves, go in unto them as Allah has
commanded you. Allah loves those who keep themselves clean'."
According
to publications by Yusuf al-Qaradawi, a contemporary Sunni Muslim
scholar, anal intercourse is prohibited and a wife must abstain from it should
her husband demand it, and may seek divorce over it if her husband persists or
tries to force her, as the act is forbidden.
Sheikh
Ware, however, says that such acts don’t necessarily have to lead to
nullification of the marriage if the couple who have done it repent and stop
repeating such a major sin.
“We
encourage that those who have done this repent and stop with immediate effect
so they cause no further disrespect to their bodies in such a manner,” he says.
Ware
refers to the ‘Hadith’, which are reports of Prophet Muhammad's sayings
and deeds from those close to him in his lifetime, and says that Sunni Hadiths
on the subject of anal intercourse between individuals clearly state that it is
strictly forbidden.
“One
of the hadith states that Allah is not shy to tell you the truth; do not
have intercourse with your wives in the anus. We are told that on the day of
resurrection, Allah will not look at a man who had intercourse with his wife in
her anus. We are also told to make love to our wives from the front or the
back, but avoid the anus and intercourse altogether during menstruation,” Ware
said.
It
is very clear that whoever has intercourse with his wife through her anus is
accursed, he adds.
He
explains that different sexual positions a married couple chooses to engage in
during the act are fully permissible as long as intercourse takes place in the
vagina and not the anus.
Involving
the anus in foreplay is also forbidden, and inserting fingers or objects into
the back passage is considered a perversion and is forbidden.
Sheikh
Ware says there is a part of the Quran that has been commonly misinterpreted
and de-contextualised as a ground to validate anal intercourse between husband
and wife. He quotes 2:223, which says, “Your women are a tilth for you
(to cultivate), so go to your tilth as ye will, and send (good deeds)
before you for your souls, and fear Allah, and know that ye will (one day) meet
Him. Give glad tidings to believers, (O Muhammad).”
He
quotes the Quran, Sura 4, 15-16, as follows:
“Those
who commit unlawful sexual intercourse of your women, bring against them four
[witnesses] from among you. And if they testify, confine the guilty women to
houses until death takes them or Allah ordains for them [another] way. And the
two who commit it among you, dishonour them both. But if they repent and
correct themselves, leave them alone. Indeed, Allah is ever accepting of
repentance and merciful.”
Shiite
Perspective
According
to the Shariah Law in the Shiite opinion, Ware says anal intercourse is
not permitted and those who do it say it is extremely makrooh (disliked
or offensive act).
However,
he says the act is subliminally accepted.
“Anal
intercourse between a married couple is permissible under the condition that
the wife accepts it and is comfortable doing it, but the act itself remains
strongly undesirable, said Ware.
He
says generally, the act is hated and discouraged.
Christian
View
Anal
sex appears to breach the biblical concept of mutual respect and enjoyment
between partners. Renowned Christian sex therapists Clifford and Joyce
Penner report that most women who engage in anal sex with their husbands
admit that they don’t enjoy it but rather that they feel violated.
Pastor
Nahashon Bwire of the Christ Revelation Church says such an act
should not cross the mind of a Christian.
“The
Bible heavily disapproves of such an act. A married couple is supposed to have
intercourse the normal way, and by this I mean via the vagina. If the woman is
on her period, then the man should practice self-control until she is done,”
Bwire said.
From
a medical perspective, anal sex poses various risks, including bacterial and
viral infections of the vagina, penis, rectum and anus.
Rectal
tissue is also more delicate and vulnerable to tearing and abrasion than
vaginal tissue.
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Original
headline: A sin to have anal sex, say Islam, Christianity
Source:
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