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Pakistani Christian Girl Who Wanted to Convert to Islam and Marry a Muslim Man Jumps off Building to Escape Family

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Yemen’s Swap Marriages Can Lead to Unhappiness

Two Arrested for Ordering Six-Year-Old Girl’s Marriage in Swat, Pakistan

66pc of Bangladesh Girls Get Married Before 18

Saudi Designer Celebrates Tradition with Her Designs

Muslim Brotherhood Women Try to Assuage Concerns of Women’s Rights Activists

Girls' Mutilation Is Not Conclusive: Sydney Court

Bali Couple Sentenced to Death for Murder of Employer's Family

Women's Rights at a Standstill in Jordan

Women Shut Out of Syria's Opposition Leadership

Man, friend get life term for murdering girlfriend

More Indonesian Mothers Now Turning To Day Care Centers

Women Should Start Care Of Their Health

Pakistani Cook Caught Filming Women Indecently

Second International Children’s Film Festival Calls out to Karachi

Compiled by New Age Islam News Bureau

Photo: Yemen’s Swap Marriages Can Lead to Unhappiness

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Pakistani Christian Girl Who Wanted to Convert to Islam and Marry a Muslim Man Jumps off Building to Escape Family

November 8, 2012

KARACHI: A 19-year-old Christian girl named Sunita, who had come to Karachi city courts in order to convert to Islam and marry a Muslim man, jumped from the second floor of an adjacent building on Thursday upon seeing her family there, Express News reported.

According to Express News correspondent Shakir Sultan, Sunita, who wanted to change her name to Sobia after embracing Islam, was present at Tahir Plaza adjacent to city courts where she went to talk to her lawyer.

However, she saw her family there and fearing a harsh reaction, she jumped off the second floor of the building. Sunita said she did not want to commit suicide, but was only scared of a backlash from her family.

She hurt her leg and lower body as a result.

Sunita, who works as a receptionist at a clinic had fallen in love with a man named Ghulam Rasool who used to come there. Both of them decided to get married and had arrived at the city courts for court marriage.

The Christian girl further said that no one was forcing her to convert her religion and that she was always “inclined towards Islam.”

Her case was presented before a magistrate where she appealed the authorities to provide her security.

http://tribune.com.pk/story/462639/marriage-christian-girl-jumps-off-building-to-escape-family/

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Yemen’s Swap Marriages Can Lead to Unhappiness

November 08, 2012

The deal is simple: I marry your sister and you marry mine. No dowry necessary. But if one marriage fails, the other must end as well.

Such is Sheghar, or swap marriage, a widely practiced tradition in impoverished Yemen. Beyond tying the knot between two people, it links the future of two families in a potentially disastrous arrangement.

In a country where child marriages remain customary, swap marriage is also rife, particularly in rural areas of the Arabian Peninsula nation, despite the often destructive consequences of the practice.

Muslim scholars have ruled that Sheghar marriage is not Islamic, but many in Yemen’s conservative society believe that it cements family ties, and keeps the inheritance within the family as most swaps take place between relatives.

Ahmed Abdullah, 70, described swap marriage as a “marriage of regret” as he painfully narrated the story of his son who could not cope with losing his wife over his sister’s divorce.

“I agreed with my dearest friend to arrange a marriage for our two sons in this way. ... After two years, my daughter and her husband could not get on well,” which led to her returning to her parents’ home, he said.

“The moment she returned, my son’s wife left his house. The problem is that he really loved her,” he said, adding that eventually both couples were forced to divorce.

“My son lost his mind because of the pressure we put on him to divorce his wife.”

One of the reasons leading to the spread of swap marriages in rural areas is the lack of education for women who remain too weak to reject the will of their male-dominated families.

Most women in Yemen do not have the option of disobeying the family because that would amount to challenging the whole clan, which is far more concerned about preserving its honour than the life of a woman on the verge of losing her family.

Ali and Nasser married each other’s sisters. After several years, Ali divorced his wife. But when his sister refused to leave Nasser, her family and cousins stormed her house and forced Nasser to divorce her.

The dispute led to armed clashes between the two families which resulted in the death of Nasser’s brother-in law.

“The revenge is yet to be settled between the two families,” said Saeed al-Waeli, a relative of the victim.

Swap marriages are not reserved for the poor and illiterate in Yemen.

University graduate Mohammed Saeed, 35, said that although he was fully aware of the dangers of swap marriages, he was forced into one by his family so that his older sister could be married.

“My parents realized that they could hit two birds with one stone,” he said. “I suffered endless problems for seven years, and so did my sister. When I couldn’t bear it any longer I divorced my wife. She took my son and daughter with her. I haven’t seen them in four years.”

Sociologist Amani Maysari argues that the spread of Sheghar marriage is because of “exaggerated dowries.”

“Increased poverty, as well as the rise in marriage costs, forces some families into swap marriages,” she said.

Human rights minister Huriya Mashhour agreed that high dowries were a main motive behind swap marriages, pointing out that families see it as a “solution for those who cannot afford the cost of marriage.”

She underscored the dilemma that women in such marriages face.

“The woman loses her right to receive a dowry, and if her counterpart gets divorced, she finds herself in the same situation as her family collapses,” she said.

Mashhour played down the spread of this type of marriage, since studies show they take place mainly in rural areas.

“The percentage doubles in rural areas because of traditions,” she said.

Islamic jurist Mohammed al-Omrani said that Sheghar marriage does not abide by the rules of Islam.

“When a wife can be divorced only because the other woman got divorced ... This means this marriage is Haram [prohibited],” he said.

http://www.thejakartaglobe.com/lifeandtimes/yemens-swap-marriages-can-lead-to-unhappiness/554552

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Two Arrested for Ordering Six-Year-Old Girl’s Marriage in Swat, Pakistan

By Fazal Khaliq

November 8, 2012

SWAT: Two members of a jirga have been arrested for ordering marriage of a six-year-old girl to resolve a family dispute in a village in Swat.

Police registered a First Information Report against Bahadar Khan and Umar Zada, residents of Asharey village in Matta Tehsil, under sections 310-A, 511 and 506 of the Pakistan Penal Code (PPC) on the complaint of the girl’s father, Azeem Khan.

The case of swara came to light after Azeem and his wife approached the media on October 30, appealing the Supreme Court chief justice and the president and prime minister of Pakistan to protect their daughter, Bibi Roza.

Azeem said the issue started two years ago when his son, Ameer Zada, got married to Bacha Gai. He said Bahadar started making “false claims” that his daughter-in-law had been engaged to Bahadar’s nephew, Saran Zeb, prior to getting married to his son. He said that Bahadar visited his son, who had moved to Saudi Arabia, pressurising him to annul his marriage and even took Rs500, 000 from him as compensation.

Azeem said the matter was resolved between the family, but after Bahadar returned to Pakistan, he abducted Bacha and solemnised her nikah with Sarab. In the meantime, he also tried to get Saran married to Mahjabeen, a sister of Bacha through a local jirga.

Azeem said that with the help of a local court, his daughter-in-law was recovered and handed over to him.

However, he said that a few months later, Bahadar again raised the issue and registered a case against his son and daughter-in-law, who were both arrested and sent to Temargara Jail. Again, the matter was resolved with the help of a local jirga and the couple was freed, Azeem added.

On October 30, Bahadar along with two of Azeem’s brothers — Dawood and Umar Zada — decided to resolve the matter “permanently” by marrying Azeem’s daughter, Bibi, to Saran.

“My brother Umar beat me up and the jirga members threatened to kill me and destroy my house if I refuse to comply with the verdict,” said Azeem, who also accused the Asharey Police Station House Officer Shah Dawran of endorsing the jirga’s decision.

“The SHO forced me to sign an agreement to give my daughter in Swara,” he claimed.

The SHO has denied the accusations. “As soon as I got to know about the case, I communicated the details to the circle district superintendent of police (DSP) to take necessary action,” he said.

When contacted, Deputy Inspector General of Police Akhtar Hayat Gandapur said two suspects have been arrested and further investigations into the case are underway.

He assured that strict action will be taken against the accused once the inquiry is completed.

http://tribune.com.pk/story/462308/another-swara-case-two-arrested-for-ordering-six-year-old-girls-marriage/

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66pc of Bangladesh Girls Get Married Before 18

November 08, 2012

Around 66 percent of the girls in Bangladesh get married before they reach 18 years of age, and of them 20 percent become mothers by the time they are 15 years old, UNFPA Representative Arthur Erken said yesterday.

He said although Bangladesh had made much progress in decreasing child mortality and maternal deaths, a large number of girls were still vulnerable to child marriage.

These girls could become an asset for the country's economy if society gave them a chance to complete their education, be a part of the workforce and prove their worth, he told a debate competition focusing on “International Day of the Girl Child” at the capital's Bashundhara city.

Eight of the country's top colleges took part in the contest jointly organised by United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) and Debate for Democracy.

Viqarunnisa Noon School and College clinched the championship.

http://www.thedailystar.net/newDesign/news-details.php?nid=256680

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Saudi Designer Celebrates Tradition with Her Designs

 7 November 2012

Saudi designer Hana Samman started her designing career in an early age when she couldn’t find anyone who would design a navy blue abaya for her. She decided to design her own just to have the liberty to wear what suited her and looked good on her.

Her fashion sense drove her to design her own abayas before people around her asked her to design theirs as well. Thirteen years later, Samman now is one of the famous and well-known names in the fashion industry in the Kingdom. She leads a very stylish life and travels from one country to another to find inspiration and buy her exclusive and luxurious materials.

Full report at:

http://www.arabnews.com/beauty-and-bisht-hana-samman-celebrates-tradition-her-designs

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Muslim Brotherhood Women Try to Assuage Concerns of Women’s Rights Activists

 8 Nov 2012

By Safaa Abdoun

CAIRO (Trust Law) – Fear and controversy concerning the inclusion and protection of women’s rights continue to surround the drafting of a new Egyptian constitution, which is due to be completed in early December.

Women’s rights activists fear that Islamists, currently in the political majority, will seek to undermine and restrict rights for women in the draft constitution.

The controversy is centered on Article 68, formerly known as Article 36, which states: "The state is committed to taking all constitutional and executive measures to ensure equality of women with men in all walks of political, cultural, economic and social life, without contradicting the precepts of Islamic Law."

Full report at:

http://www.trust.org/trustlaw/news/muslim-brotherhood-women-try-to-assuage-concerns-of-womens-rights-activists

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Girls' Mutilation Is Not Conclusive: Sydney Court

November 8, 2012

The medical evidence against eight people charged over the genital mutilation of two young sisters is inconclusive, a Sydney court has been told.

Four relatives of the girls appeared in Parramatta Local Court on Thursday, taking the total number of those facing charges to eight.

The girls' parents, their local Islamic leader and a retired nurse have also been charged with the female circumcision of the sisters, aged six and seven at the time.

Full report at:

http://news.smh.com.au/breaking-news-national/girls-mutilation-is-not-conclusive-court-20121108-290je.html

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Bali Couple Sentenced to Death for Murder of Employer's Family

Made Arya Kencana | November 06, 2012

Denpasar. A husband and wife were sentenced to death on Tuesday for murdering their employers, including the family's 9-year-old girl, by the Denpasar District Court.

Heru Hendriyanto, 25, and his wife Putu Anita Sukra Dewi, 23, worked as a driver and maid for a family of three in the Kampial Residence housing complex in South Kuta, Badung district, Bali.

Heru was upset with his employers over the poor treatment of his wife and child, he told the court.

Full report at:

http://www.thejakartaglobe.com/home/bali-couple-sentenced-to-death-for-murder-of-employers-family/554534

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Women's Rights at a Standstill in Jordan

By RANA F. SWEIS

November 8, 2012

AMMAN — On a warm day late last month a crowd filed into a white tent outside the royal palaces in Amman to hear a much-anticipated speech by King Abdullah II on the country’s political future.

Although the invitees included various dignitaries — former politicians, tribal leaders, journalists, even Islamists — they included only a few women: and when the men interrupted the speech to chant loyalty slogans, those few seemed to disappear from sight entirely.

In his speech, the king encouraged participation in the elections, which are expected in January, and spoke about street protests, saying calls for overthrowing the regime were “regrettable.” He said that “every individual in this society is part of this regime.” But he failed to mention the current struggle for women’s rights in Jordan, which he has mentioned in the past.

Full report at:

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/08/world/middleeast/womens-rights-at-a-standstill-in-

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Women Shut Out of Syria's Opposition Leadership

November 8, 2012

DOHA, Qatar (AP) — The leadership of Syria's main opposition group in exile is an all-male affair after elections failed to promote a single woman to the decision-making group of 41 members.

Some of the female delegates at the Syrian National Council conference in the Qatari capital of Doha rushed the podium in protest after the results were announced in the early hours of Thursday. They said the new leadership fails to reflect the key role of women in the push to topple Syrian President Bashar Assad.

Full report at:

http://www.nytimes.com/aponline/2012/11/08/world/middleeast/ap-ml-syria-sidelined-

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Man, friend get life term for murdering girlfriend

Marie Nammour / 8 November 2012

A Syrian man has been sentenced in absentia to life in prison on Wednesday by the Court of First Instance for the premeditated murder of his British girlfriend in her apartment in Rafaa.

Another Syrian, 26-year-old jobless, was also given life term for instigating the murder and criminal complicity. He has been referred to the Court of Misdemeanours for over-staying in the country with an expired visa.

Both defendants were ordered to be deported after completing their sentences.

The murder was linked with the robbery of the victim’s jewellery.

A third Syrian who is a 30-year-old salesman, and a Jordanian office manager, 27, was cleared of the charge of possession of stolen jewellery. The verdict remains subject to appeal within 15 days at the Court of Appeal.

Full report at:

http://www.khaleejtimes.com/nation/inside.asp?xfile=/data/courtroundup/2012/November/courtroundup_November24.xml&section=courtroundup

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More Indonesian mothers now turning to day care centers

 8 November 2012

When Aryan Danudara was 6 months old and ended up in hospital because of poor care by the family maid, his parents decided to put him in a day care center after he recovered.

“Both my wife’s job and mine are very busy. So when he turned eight months old, we decided on sending him to day care,” said Adhi Ferdhya, a 40-year-old media consultant who said that between client visits and business trips, they were often away.

With more and more women going out to work due to rising education and middle-class aspirations, day care has become essential for residents of urban Jakarta and other parts of Indonesia, the way it has in the rest of the developed world.

Full report at:

http://www.arabnews.com/more-indonesian-mothers-now-turning-day-care-centers

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Women Should Start Care Of Their Health

By Ahtesham Azhar

November 8, 2012

KARACHI: Women of Asian countries are ignoring themselves, particularly in circumstances of health. Women of Pakistan should start care of their health so that every woman can protect their home as well as their own life.

These views were expressed by Sindh Women Development Minister Tauqeer Fatima Bhutto while addressing a seminar entitled ‘Women Heatlh’, organised by the National Forum for Environment & Health (NFEH) featuring various issues regarding women health, held at a local hotel on Wednesday.

Full report at:

http://www.dailytimes.com.pk/default.asp?page=2012\11\08\story_8-11-2012_pg12_5

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Pakistani Cook Caught Filming Women Indecently

Marie Nammour / 8 November 2012

A Pakistani cook denied in court on Wednesday having used his mobile phone camera to indecently film unaware women passengers in the metro, focusing on particular parts of their body.

The 28-year-old pleaded not guilty to sexual assault charge and claimed he only meant to film the view in front of him.

A policeman told the investigating prosecutor that he was alerted by a woman passenger about a Pakistani man filming women in the metro, while he was on duty at Rashidiya metro station.  The incident occurred in June at about 11.30pm.

Full report at:

http://www.khaleejtimes.com/nation/inside.asp?xfile=/data/courtroundup/2012/November/

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Second International Children’s Film Festival calls out to Karachi

By Saadia Qamar

November 7, 2012

KARACHI: To entertain, inspire, and educate is the purpose of the second Karachi International Children’s Film Festival, which has been organised by festival director Shoaib Iqbal in collaboration with The Little Art and Teacher’s Resource Centre (TRC).

The idea behind the festival is to celebrate and encourage some of the best films made for and by children. It is geared towards specific age groups from four to 16 years old. Children have a vivid imagination with toys and make-believe characters, and can love unconditionally; these themes stood out at the screening showcased at the Rangoonwala Community Centre in Dhoraji Colony on Wednesday.

Full report at:

http://tribune.com.pk/story/462181/second-international-childrens-film-festival-calls-out-to-karachi/

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    @ Raihan Nezami

    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mangalore/Muslim-woman-attacked-for-travelling-with-Hindu-man-in-Mangalore/articleshow/17164794.cms

    My  humble  request  gothro link posted  in  same newspaper.
    By Dharma_raj 09/11/2012 23:28:22
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    Recently, we read this demoralizing story of a 19-year-old Christian girl named Sunita who hurt herself on seeing her parents in the court who were against the inter-caste marriage with a Muslim boy. Now today there is another heart-breaking anti-social story under the headline, “Inter-caste marriage sparks riot in Tamil Nadu district, 148 Dalit houses torched”. The URL for this given below: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Inter-caste-marriage-sparks-riot-in-Tamil-Nadu-district-148-dalit-houses-torched/articleshow/17151170.cms. One may be stunned to see this anti-social inhuman attitude that exposes the deep-rooted caste-ism in the so-called upper castes in Hindus. Many people cry of reforms that such flaws have been removed from their society. Then what is it? The innocent destitute classes of the society are being oppressed in the name of marriage. Why the heaven has broken loose at the marriage of an upper caste girl with a lower caste boy? The father committed suicide and his brethren brutally behaved, looted the valuables and torched the abodes of the poor fellows, Dalits.
    By Raihan Nezami 08/11/2012 23:35:58