Prophet's Wife Hazrat Khadija Stood As a Shield between Him and the Rest of the Meccans
By
Ghazala Wahab
MARCH 4,
2021
Muslim
theologists, jurists, and philosophers over the centuries have concluded that
for a woman to embrace Islamic life, she must not step out of the house unless
absolutely necessary, and certainly never for fun.
Kaaba, the cubic building at the Grand Mosque in Mecca, Saudi Arabia.
(AP Photo/Amr Nabil, File)
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Muslim
women and their issues are the most debated protracted subjects in Islam, even
more than jihad. The best Muslim minds, from the days of the Prophet and
thereafter, have been exercised and obsessed with the subject of women—what
they should wear, study, eat, how they should bathe, sleep, how long they
should grow their nails, what the decibel levels of their voices should be when
they speak, how they should keep themselves chaste and yet desirable for their
husbands, how they should be punished for offences of commission and omission,
what degree of beating is necessary for discipline, and so on.
Given the
volume of instructional manuals for Muslim women, one would imagine that the
religion of Islam was revealed with the sole objective of taming the wayward
women of the world and to keep them from having indiscriminate sex, when the
truth is, in pre-Islamic Arabia, it was the male of the species who was
sexually promiscuous.
This was
the reason that Islam, as revealed in the Quran, tried to give women equal
standing and rights. This is all the more remarkable given the social climate
of medieval Arabia. Women in pre-Islamic Arabian society were considered
subhuman. On the one hand, female children were undesirable and were often
killed at birth. On the other hand, adult women were hugely desirable,
irrespective of whether they were wives, stepmothers, or slaves. It was a
common practice for the eldest son to take as wives his father’s widows
inherited as property with the rest of the estate’. Note the term ‘wives’,
which puts no limit to the number. An adult woman in Arabia had a very limited
role beyond her sexual function. The lucky ones managed to fulfil their sexual
responsibilities as one of several wives of a rich man, while the slaves or
poor had to work in brothels, vulnerable to both sexual violence and
debasement.
Even today,
horror stories of the sexual exploitation of women at the hands of Arab men are
frequently reported in the media. Clearly, the humanizing touch of Islam has
not been able to penetrate the thick walls of male entitlement and
old-fashioned debauchery of Arab society.
During
Prophet Muhammad’s time, the only women to escape this subhuman existence were
the beloved daughters of tribal chieftains, especially if they survived their
male siblings. Despite this, there is only one recorded woman in pre-Islamic
Mecca who had any agency over her life. As we’ve seen, this was Khadija, a
successful businesswoman who had large trading caravans going in and out of
Mecca. She was the daughter of a rich merchant who inherited her father’s
business. Muhammad, her distant relative, came to work for her. As he gained
her trust, he started to accompany the caravans. Over time, Khadija
increasingly came to rely on him and proposed marriage.
Most
accounts agree on these facts. Thereafter, discrepancies creep in. For
instance, while everyone agrees that Khadija was older than Muhammad, the age
difference varies across accounts. Some Sunni versions say that she was forty
at the time of her marriage and Muhammad twenty-five. Also that she was a widow
who had a few children from her previous marriage. Some Shia accounts put her
age at twenty-eight and refer to her as a virgin. These variations can be
explained by the fact that there was no tradition of history writing during the
Prophet’s time; the first account of his life and times was written a century
after his death.
The
importance of Khadija lies in the fact that not only was she the first person
to convert to Islam, but she also used her enormous wealth to support Prophet
Muhammad and the early Muslims. She paid to free slaves and stood as a shield
between her husband and the rest of the Meccans, who were up in arms against
him for questioning their existing religious beliefs. Owing to her family’s
stature, as long as she was alive, no harm came to Prophet Muhammad; it was
only after her death that he had to escape to Medina. An Islamic proverb
acknowledging her contribution says: Islam did not rise except through Ali’s
sword and Khadija’s wealth.
Moreover,
her marriage to Prophet Muhammad was monogamous. She was his only wife at the
time and the only one to have children with him—it was these children who
carried forward the Prophet’s line of succession. Hence, she is respectfully
referred to as the mother of the believers. It was only well after her death
that the Prophet took another wife, and then another, thereafter taking several
others. With a few exceptions, all his marriages were with war widows and took
place after he had established the first Islamic state in Medina.
How
appalling it is then that this astonishing and unparalleled story of a
remarkable medieval woman has been relegated to the footnotes of Islamic
history, and is remembered only for her piety and devotion to her husband.
Subsequent Islamic narrations, while dwelling on Prophet Muhammad’s
relationship with his youngest wife, Aisha, gloss over the nature of his
relationship with Khadija, which was clearly based on equality and mutual
respect. When Prophet Muhammad’s actions are held as Sunnah, worthy of
emulation, why don’t Muslim men emulate the beloved Prophet when it comes to
marrying older, widowed women? Where has this craving for young, virginal,
stay-at-home wives come from? It is certainly not Islamic.
Coming back
to Khadija, could she be the reason that the early Quranic verses revealed to
Prophet Muhammad tried to reform Arab society, especially in its treatment of
women? Of course, before the society of the time could contemplate giving
equality, it had to first recognize women as fellow humans, and that is what
the Quran sought to do, with limited success. As Laila Tyabji points out,
‘Islam is the only religion that gave women a fixed share in the property/
estate of her father and later her husband. People now say that it treats women
as inferior to men because a daughter gets less than the son, but remember this
happened in the seventh century when women were treated as no more than
chattel. Can you imagine what Prophet Muhammad would have done today?’
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This
excerpt from Ghazala Wahab’s Born a Muslim: Some Truths about Islam in India
has been published with the permission of Aleph Book Company
Original
Headline: Not a Footnote: Prophet Muhammad’s First Wife Was a Successful
Businesswoman Who Paid to Free Slaves
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