We learn from everyone
By Sumit Paul, New Age Islam
03 February 2023
Har shakhs ek mudarris hai aur ye duniya ek
darsgaah (Every individual is a teacher and the world is a
school)
-Intizaar Hussain
Har din ek naye falsafe ka aaghaaz hai aur har
vaqi'a ek nayee simt ki jaanib ishara (Every day is a
beginning to a new philosophy and every event is a pointer to a new direction).
Qurratulain Hyder
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One of the lines that are inscribed on the
palimpsest of my heart and mind is: Not everyone is meant to stay in your life
forever.........sometimes they're only there long enough to teach you the
lesson that you needed to learn. Very precious words, I must say. We meet
people, learn from them, and they too learn from us and when the lessons are
imbibed and well-learned, the association is all-over.
Every relationship is mutually beneficial, though
initially, it may seem destructive. At the same time, every meeting in life
also has a purpose. Don't associate it with destiny or quirks of fate. I've
experienced that you meet an individual with an objective even though you and
that person are unaware of it. The waves of the sea strike against the rocks
and ebb back. Every day, every hour and every moment altogether new waves
strike never to come again. But the wetness of every wave gets embossed on the
rocks. We all unconsciously wait for new people to come into our lives and when
they come, we also unconsciously want them to leave us. It's a very strange
feeling but here lies the truth of life.
The human mind always works in an ironical manner. 'Kisi
ko paakar bhi aksar ye gumaan hota hai ke jaise rahe gayee ho baaqi koi kami
phir bhi' (In spite of meeting someone in life/ There lies a rueful feeling
of still to find someone). Obviously, better. And this never-satisfying quest
makes us meet different people in the sojourn of life. Years ago, someone told
me that none of us could ever find a person complete in every respect. He was
right. That we never get someone completely measuring up to our yardsticks
keeps us alive and going. It's good that all those we meet come in parts. And
all aspects, parts and dimensions of different individuals constitute a
person's attitude towards life. Buddha's dictum is very appropriate that you
never learn all from one master.
You need a master to learn different facets of
life. I fully agree with him. I'm yet to come across a person in life, who can
be the epitome of perfection. In fact, one doesn't have to be perfect because
the very idea of perfection or completeness is intangible and improbable. At
every juncture of life, I came across people, who could teach me something new
irrespective of their social status and standing. Years ago, at a market in
Herat (Afghanistan), a cobbler gave me certain very simple tips on how to
retain the shine of leather shoes. I never found those tips even in the Bata,
Czech's manual.
Likewise, one of my female friends admitted long
ago that she learnt something from me that she couldn't learn from her string
of male friends. Every boyfriend taught her something new and unique and eased
out of her life. Life's like that. You constantly come across new masters and
new teachers and once they inculcate the lesson, they move out of your life.
So, be open to welcoming new ones. Remember, Ek musalsal sabaq hai ye hayaat
(Life's an eternal lesson).
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