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Islamic Concept Of Marriage

By S. Arshad, New Age Islam

09 October 2019

The union of a man and a woman under a social contract for the purpose of fulfilling social, physical and biological obligations is called marriage. The concept of marriage is as old as the history of mankind. The first man and woman, Adam and Eve were husband and wife and they lived together as a couple for their entire life. Thus the concept of marriage as a life long union between a man and woman exists since the primitive age and subsequent religions put their seal of recognition on the sanctity of the institution of marriage. Separation (divorce) is seen only as an unwanted incident and a result of incompatibility or serious personal differences between the couple and is always painful for both.

In Islam, Marriage Is A Social Contract Between Two Consenting Adults i.e.. Uqdatun Nikah (Contract Of Marriage) (Al Baqarah:237).

In pre-Islam Arabia, the concept of marriage was not well defined. As a result, women's place in society was shaky and insecure. Islam defined marriage as a permanent union between a man and woman and divorce was only a way out of a disastrous marriage to save the husband and wife from mental and physical pain. The holy Quran outlines the process of divorce which is only a last resort and not a means of ending a mutually decided temporary marriage for sexual gratification.

According to Quran, the purpose of marriage is not only to fulfil physical obligations but also procreation. Procreation leads to the creation of a larger society. God created man according to his scheme of things. He willed the creation of society where every human being will do his duty towards other human beings, and based on his deeds and actions his fate will be decided. Thus only a lawful lasting relationship between man and woman can be conducive to the creation of a society planned by God.

That's why the Quran advocates a lifelong marriage because only a lasting relationship can fulfil the purpose of procreation. It opposes and disapproves of any marriage which is based on temporary sexual gratification because if this form of marriage is approved and permitted, it will also, like sexual perversion (homosexuality and lesbianism), hinder the process of procreation. Since, the parties in a temporary marriage will come together for a stipulated period of time only to satiate their list, they will take every preventive measure against procreation. The couple will also not have any commitment towards each other and will not have any emotional bond. This will render them irresponsible towards the duties of the society. This form of marriage will also promote adultery and prostitution. To prevent this trend, the Quran puts chastity as a precondition for marriage:

"And lawful to you are (all others) beyond these provided you seek them (marriage) with (gifts from) your property, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse."(Al Nisa:25)

"So marry them (slave girls) with the permission of their masters and give them their Mehr on a reasonable basis within their customs as they should be chaste, not adulterous, nor receiving secret boyfriends."(Al Nisa:25)

The Quran does not approve of marriage with unchaste or adulterous man or woman. Men and women having temporary marriages on hourly, daily or monthly basis do not fall under the category of chaste men and women because their purpose is only sexual gratification on the part of man and selling the body on the part of woman. Even in the case of Muslim man marrying woman of the People of the Book or slave girls, chastity is the precondition according to the verses 5.5 and 24:32.

The Quran guarantees social security, empowerment and equality to women through permanent marriage. A temporary marriage (Mutah, Misyar etc.) Reduces a woman to a sex object and renders her insecure and helpless and vulnerable to oppression and exploitation.

By making man her guardian, the holy Quran, makes woman secure. The man protects her and provides her physical and emotional support.

"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women."(Al Nisa:34).

Only a lasting relationship can create an emotional bond between them and a sense of belonging.They respect each other and guard the honour and interests of each other.

"They (your wives) are your garment and you are a garment for them."(Al-e-Imran:187)

To further strengthen the marital bond, the Quran has declared extramarital relationship a severe crime.

Therefore, the Quran renders all forms of temporary marriage invented by the modern consumerist society unlawful and akin to adultery. The institution of marriage is being misused for sexual gratification and exploitation of poor and helpless women. Such marriages are a violation of Quran's principles and laws and are punishable for adultery under the Islamic Law.

S. Arshad is a regular columnist for NewAgeIslam.com

URL: http://www.newageislam.com/islamic-society/s-arshad,-new-age-islam/islamic-concept-of-marriage/d/119950

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  • Sodom was presumably destroyed by an earthquake around 1900 B.C. Attributing such disasters to sinfulness is naïve but is still being practiced by some mullahs and some American television preachers e.g. Pat Robertson. Such attributions should be avoided because they only fuel the  intolerance of homosexuals and make their often difficult lives even more miserable. Let us keep intolerance and hatred down in our society.

    By Ghulam Mohiyuddin - 10/11/2019 11:34:42 PM

  • Anyone who condemns homosexuality is an ignorant. God considers it not only a sin but also a crime and prescribes physical punishment for it. So God is also ignorant.
    By Arshad - 10/11/2019 11:25:18 PM

  • "The inhabitants .... in the eyes of Nature"
    utter nonsense! do not speak about things of which you know nothing. homosexuality is "within" nature. around 5% of the population of males are attracted towards the same sex. animals demonstrate this behaviour too.
    just because you write all poppycock about the quran does not hide the fact that you are a very deeply ignorant man.

    By hats off! - 10/11/2019 7:12:09 PM

  • You don't have arguments. Your biggest envy is that a non madrasa writer writes on topics which was once the Monopoly of ulema like you. And you have expressed this jealousy before as well. If you have understood Quran in the last 1500 hundred years why can't you talk with arguments,?
    By Arshad - 10/11/2019 5:58:46 AM

  • Arshad sb, 
    No need to show too much wrath! 

    By GGS - 10/10/2019 11:13:35 PM

  • Talaq ahsan aur talaq Hasan etc AAP jaise Ulama be hi ijad kiye Hain. Na Quran ne na Hadith be aur na Sahaba be. Phir aap hi iska zikr kar ke apne aap ko ga lat sabitkar rahe Hain.
    By Arshad - 10/10/2019 7:55:22 PM

  • Quran padh lo talaq ka masla Hal ho jayega. Magar masle ka Hal Quran ko chhod kar mufti ke pass dhunda jata hai aur unke pass ek hi Hal hai.. halala. La la la la.
    By Arshad - 10/10/2019 11:56:11 AM

  • Talaq ka masla achhe achhon ki samajh me nahi aaraha hai isliye Bina samjhe talaq diye ha rahe hain
    By Arshad - 10/10/2019 11:53:13 AM

  • GGS bahut gussey me malum pastry Hain isliye be soche samjhe aulfaul buck rahey Hain. Is mazmun me talaq par bags nahi ki gayi hai .main talaq par sarkari qanun ka Hami nahi Hun. Triple talaq ka mokhtalif Hun kyunki Quran me is talaq ka zikr nahi hai.
    By Arshad - 10/10/2019 11:50:58 AM

  • جناب ارشد صاحب !

    طلاق ثلاثہ کا مسئلہ اچھے اچھوں کی سمجھ میں نہیں آ پا رہا ہے ۔

    موجودہ صورت حال میں ہندوستانی مسلمانوں کے سامنے جو طلاق ثلاثہ کا مسئلہ ہے اور اس پر جو غلط فہمیاں ہیں ، اسے   حسب ذیل  چند سوالات و جوابات کے ذریعے پیش کیے جا رہے ہیں

    سوال : طریقہ طلاق کونسا پسندیدہ ہے ؟

    جواب : طلاق احسن

    سوال : جب طلاق ہی سرے سے نا پسند ہے تو طلاق احسن کیوں پسندیدہ طریقہ ؟

    جواب : ناگزیر حالت میں جب طلاق دینے کے علاوہ کوئی دوسرا راستہ نہ رہے تو طلاق دینے کا اختیار ہے ، وہ بھی احسن طریقہ سے ۔

    سوال: طلاق ثلاثہ کیوں ناپسندیدہ مانا جاتا ہے ؟

    جواب : کیوں کہ اس سے ازدواجی مصالحت کے سارے راستے فورا بند ہو جاتے ہیں ۔

    سوال: اس جواب سے تو یہ معلوم ہوتا ہے کہ طلاق ثلاثہ سے بھی طلاق واقع ہو جاتی ہے تبھی تو سارے راستے فورا بند ہو جاتے ہیں ؟

    جواب: ہاں

    سوال: تو پھر طلاق ثلاثہ  کو برا سمجھنا اور پھر یہ کہنا کہ طلاق ثلاثہ مانا بھی نہیں جائے گا ، اس کی کیا وجہ ہے ؟

    جواب: اس کی وجہ بہت بڑی غلط فہمی ہے ۔کسی چیز کو جرم تبھی مانا جا سکتا ہے جب اس جرم کا اثر ہو  اور اس کے اثر  سے کوئی نقصان پہنچتا ہو ۔اگر وہ چیز نقصان دہ نہ ہو تو اس کو جرم نہیں بلکہ اسے لا یعنی بات کہی جائے گی ۔ مثلا چوری ایک جرم ہے کیونکہ اس سے دوسرے کا مال تباہ ہوتا ہے  ۔ زنا بھی ایک جرم ہے کیونکہ اس سے دوسرے کی عزت برباد ہوتی ہے ، علی ہذا لقیاس ۔

    اسی طرح جب تک طلاق ثلاثہ کا وقوع نہیں مانا جائے گا تب تک اسے جرم نہیں مانا جا سکتا ۔جرم ماننے کے لیے اس کے وقوع کا قائل ہونا پڑے گا ۔

    موجودہ صورت حال میں سپریم کورٹ کے مطابق  ایک طرف طلاق ثلاثہ جرم بھی نہیں کیونکہ ان کے مطابق اس کا وقوع نہیں ، لیکن دوسری طرف اس پر سزا۔ عقل تو اس بات کا متقاضی ہے کہ سزا تو تبھی ممکن ہو سکتی ہے جب اسے جرم مان لیا جائے اور جرم ماننے کے لیے اس طلاق ثلاثہ کے وقوع کو بھی ماننا پڑے گا ۔

    By Ghulam Ghaus Siddiqi غلام غوث الصديقي - 10/10/2019 5:34:51 AM

  • I forgot to include one point in the article:
    "The inhabitants is Sodom were destroyed because by indulging in sexual perversion, they hundred the process of procreation in a big way and lost the justification of their existence on Earth. They became useless in the eyes of Nature."

    By Arshad - 10/10/2019 2:08:58 AM

  • Your statement is contraductiry. When Quran does nit support instant talaq wherefrom the common belief opposite to it has emanated
    By Arshad - 10/9/2019 10:47:28 AM

  • There is still confusion on divorce proceedings. There is common belief that instant three tines pronouncing of divorce is enough. The Quran does not support this. Clarification is needed as Allah's Words are neither changeable nor amendable. 
    By Syed Hussain - 10/9/2019 5:44:42 AM

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