Dealing with Misogynistic Men: Three Approaches
By
Kaniz Fatma, New Age Islam
25 May 2024
The Best
of Three Approaches to Dealing with Misogynistic Men
Main
Points:
1. Misogynist
men often treat women poorly, leading to a cycle of mistreatment and violence
in the home.
2. Intolerant
or losing patience women often respond to their husband's misbehaviour with
increased misbehaviour, leading to a cycle of mistreatment, violence, divorce,
and negative impact on children.
3. Women with
internal weaknesses, tolerant of husbands' bad behaviour, but damaged in
personalities, struggle to connect with positive traits and strength, leading
to a lifeless robot existence, fake smiles, and fear in homes, affecting their
children.
4. The third
approach involves rare, daring, patient, wise, and courageous women who gently
address weak men by addressing their flaws rather than engaging in combat or
rivalry.
5. The third
approach may be more beneficial for women dealing with inappropriate husband
behaviour and potentially solve their issues.
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A woman is
a shoe for the feet; she should be maintained in her place and not put on the
head, according to some misogynist men who were raised in an environment that
taught them this lesson rather than respect for women. The way these men treat
their wives is not at all admirable. However, women who depend on men for their
financial security acknowledge that being mistreated by their husbands is
inevitable and that they should put up with it all. When a husband acts
inappropriately, a wife typically has three approaches:
The First
Approach:
Women who
are intolerant or who lose patience easily take this approach. These women
respond to their husband's misbehaviour with even greater misbehaviour. They
repay their husband's one transgression with ten more. For as long as they live
with their spouses, the homes of these women remain models of misery, and
because of their intolerance, they are soon divorced. Even if they stay
together, the home these women share becomes a battlefield. This has an impact
on their children as well. Their daughters grow up to dislike males and avoid
marriage because they witnessed their father mistreat their mother, while their
sons do not learn how to respect women. This approach perpetuates the cycle of
mistreatment and violence in the home, affecting the overall well-being of the
family.
The Second
Approach:
The women
who choose approach number two are internally weak. It seems that they tolerate
every bad behaviour of their husbands silently. However, in the process, their
personality is damaged. They are unable to connect with their positive traits
and personality strengths, resulting in their existence as lifeless robots.
Their joy is insufficient, and their smile is fake. There is always a sense of
fear in the homes of these ladies. These women implant in their children their
own inner horror. As a result, their children deal with this concern in real
life as well.
Third Approach:
These are
extremely uncommon women in our culture. They are daring, patient, wise, and
courageous. When these ladies encounter a man with a weak personality who
abuses rage and shouting to control a woman, they develop a plan to rectify him
rather than run away from this weak man. Such women gently attempt to eliminate
the flaws of these men rather than engage in combat and rivalry with them.
These are
the confident women with a strong self-belief. These women are aware that their
home is harmed simply by fighting. For this reason, when their husbands lose
their cool, these ladies demonstrate patience and say nothing. But at the
appropriate moment, she completes the process of reforming her husband and is
frequently successful in turning him into a decent husband by rationally
outlining her point of view.
As a matter
of fact, these women instil in their children a healthy sense of balance and
respect for their fathers. The path of these women is undoubtedly challenging,
but it will not last forever. With time, they will be able to get over their
challenges and manage to transform the home into the ideal family.
Remember!
When a woman observes her husband misbehaving, she has three approaches. She
has the freedom to select any of them, but her decision will impact the rest of
her life. It will benefit a lady more if she takes the third approach. This
method might be the solution to all of her problems.
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Kaniz
Fatma is a classic Islamic scholar and a regular columnist for New Age Islam.
URL: https://www.newageislam.com/islam-women-feminism/misogynistic-approaches/d/132383
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