By
BISMA FAROOQ SHEIKH
February
22,
2021
From
the dawn of civilization, values have been given paramount importance in human
society. Good moral, social and religious values have always been used as a
yardstick to judge people across time and space.
Honesty,
truthfulness, sincerity, integrity, modesty, and chastity are always sought
from people as without values man is worse than a beast. Every parent and
teacher is trying his best to teach values. But unfortunately, most of them
fail to get the desired results as they fail to realise that values cannot be
taught. They can only be caught. As goes the saying; actions speak louder than
words.
No
matter how much parents emphasise moral and social values like
truthfulness, honesty, sincerity, and chastity. But unless their character
reflects the desired qualities. They cannot be successful in imbibing these
values among their children; no matter how hard they try to. For instance; a
parent teaching his son to be truthful and never to lie but at the same time he
is lying to a person on phone in front of his son! How can he expect that his
son will become honest and truthful? Unless our words are in sync with our
actions they mean nothing.
By
verbal lessons, we may fetch some sort of conformity but to intrinsically
motivate children and to make them good social and moral beings elders
especially parents and teachers should have these good qualities reflected in
their action and character. No matter how much teachers emphasise on
punctuality and equality, they cannot expect students to become punctual unless
they themselves are punctual and impartial.
It
is never too early to start instilling moral and social values. Values should
be instilled from childhood so as to make them strong habits. When values
become habits, only then they become a part of character and personality. But
it is an irony that some modern parents are trying to teach morality to
students by providing storybooks and having access to YouTube channels without
pondering and applying themselves. Teachers and parents are role models. They
need to practise good values only then they may transmit them to others.
Values
are more important than degrees; degrees are mere papers unless they bring
change in our character. We need values for success in every stage and walk of
life. If we lie, cheat, or use dirty techniques like nepotism in academics or
professional life, then surely we need to think before labelling ourselves as
educated. Not only this, but for successful marital life, honesty, loyalty and
truthfulness are also needed. It is due to poor moral values that we have the
highest rates of pre-marital and extra-marital relations along with other
crimes and scams.
Young
minds have become addicted to cyber pornography and filth. They have lost
respect for their parents and elders. It is not uncommon to find students
misbehaving with their teachers and parents. There are many educated people who
maltreat their parents; they are ready to give money but not willing to manage
time to take them to doctors. Many get settled abroad and then never look back
to their parents. They forget all the love, care, and sacrifices of their
parents.
Dear
teachers, parents – always remember values can only be caught, not taught. We
all need to work on becoming the best version of ourselves. Only then we can
hope for a value-laden civilisation. There is a dire need for value education
in our era which has become corroded by the individualistic and materialistic
bent of mind. Money has breathed down our nostrils, and in the race of fame,
prestige, wealth, and power we sideline the values.
If
values will be instilled from the very beginning only then we can hope for a
socially and morally healthy society. We can get rid of social ills like drug
abuse, robbery, cyber scams, and corruption. Values are not only important for
character formation and healthy personality development but vital for creating
a world shining with peace, progress, and prosperity.
Educational
institutions should shift their aim from money-making to man-making. Having
talented, intelligent, and qualified youth is not enough for the nation to
thrive; real achievement lies in good moral character. Parents and teachers
need to focus as much on value education as on academics. Above all religious
education should be imparted in a real essence as religion is the best source
to instil good moral values. Parents and teachers need to be the exemplars of
religious principles and values. This will motivate young minds to move on the
right path.
Original
Headline: A lost treasure of values
Source:
Greater Kashmir
URL: https://newageislam.com/islam-human-rights/religion-be-used-imparting-human/d/124373
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