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Valentine Day’s Universal Message

 

 

Valentine's Day Message

Valentine Day's Universal Message

For My Single, Coupled And Married Friends

Love has no bounds. Indeed, it’s a relationship of caring between husband and wife, mother and son, father and daughter, mother daughter, brother sister, brothers, sisters, friends, uncles, aunties, Granpa and Gramma, friends, and any one you care about. Valentine's Day has moved from an exclusive rendezvous between two lovers to a universal meaningful expression of affection between any two people, and as a futurist, I see this morphing into a universal affection day within a decade.

 

 

 

 

 

Throughout the history of language, words have taken on new and expanded meanings; Valentine's Day is no exception, and eventually, it will morph into an all inclusive romantic day. 

Please feel free to say happy valentine to your sister, mother, brother, daughter, dad, uncle or a friend. It is a much bigger word now than it started out to be. Take them out for dinner and send them flowers to let them know that you care if you are the only one for them at this point in life.

While we Americans express it by presenting red roses to our loved ones, the Filipinos will break another record; the number of people kissing at the same time, Brazil will have another major festival on her beaches celebrating love. You are welcome to share other such expressions.

On the other side of the world, a few frustrated ones will go to the other extreme. A handful of Indians, Pakistanis and Bangladeshi Hindus and Muslims will go on bashing and harassing the people who want to spend their time in peace. They ransack shops that sell the cards, and have beaten up couples in restaurants. If I were in those nations, I would offer the misguided ones to come and spend time in Temples, Mosques or other places of worship and fall in love with God and sing songs praising the lord!

Sadly, some of you are going to feel lonely, if you miss the love in your life; you have an opportunity to fulfil it. There is plenty in you that you can give by feeding the homeless, visiting lonely patients in the hospitals or nursing homes, disadvantaged women and children, our veterans... share whatever little you have with them including the time and just listening to them. When a homeless person asks, give whatever you can, that is the most affectionate thing to do, you will enrich yourselves far greater by sharing.

The best thing you can do for yourselves it to take an hour away from every one, and reflect on your life without blaming any one and figure out how to change it. Your love does not have to be expressed in the romantic sense, channel it out with family members, or a good old friend, or just by yourselves by caring for them, and doing things un-asked, and without any expectations of reciprocation.

There is nothing more peaceful than knowing yourselves, consider appreciating whatever you have, and accepting the way you are without wishing to be something and someone else. You don't need to compare with any one on the earth, there is none like you, you are one in 7 billion; you have your own unique thumb print, eye print, dna, taste bud, colours, foods, smells, sights... by God, you are your own model! When you accept that you are unique with your problems and joy, you will find peace and love.

When you love yourselves, i.e., you do not wish you had things others have but be content with what you have, you do not wish to look like someone else and be happy that you can at least breathe, you do not wish to wear like someone else, you do not want to talk like someone else, and do not want to live like someone else, then you have accepted your uniqueness that God gave you (ok, the genetic, if you don't believe in God), when you do that, you are in love with yourselves.

Don't forget, if your love makes you humble, you become the honey and attract good friendships, on the other hand if you become arrogant that others are inferior to you, you stink, and repel like hell and no one would want to be friends with you.

Make the commitment and just do it, if you like it recommend it to your friends.

If you are not single and have a spouse, listen to these songs and see if they express you.

I dedicate these three songs to Yasmeen, my dear wife.

Kenny Roger's, you decorated my life: I particularly like the line which says, there is no rhyme or reason that is what love is all about. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gJkPFSt326c

Ronnie Milsap's, what a difference you made in my life,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Ni1WPGEZtg&feature=fvst

Muhammad Rafi's ai Husn Zara Jaag in Urdu/ Hindi,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2_qGtHjM6Oc

And Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan's, aap say mil kay in Urdu/Hindi

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixRn65ImoRQ

My expressions would be incomplete without honoring the poet of love, Mirza Ghalib, one of the greatest romantic poets of all times who composed his poetry in Urdu/Hindi and Farsi.

Ishk per zor nahin, hai a o aatish ghalib

Ke lagaye na lege, bujhaye no bujhe.

Affection is that flame O Ghalib,

You cannot light it up or extinguish it deliberately,  it just happens.

Happy Valentine's Day!

HUFFINGTON POST: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mike-ghouse/valetines-day-universal_b_1275148.html

Mike Ghouse is a speaker, thinker and a writer on pluralism, politics, peace, Islam, Israel, India, interfaith, and cohesion at work place. He is committed to building a Cohesive America and offers pluralistic solutions on issues of the day at www.TheGhousediary.com. He believes in Standing up for others and has done that throughout his life as an activist. Mike has a presence on national and local TV, Radio and Print Media. He is a frequent guest on Sean Hannity show on Fox TV, and a commentator on national radio networks, he contributes weekly to the Texas Faith Column at Dallas Morning News; fortnightly at Huffington post; and several other periodicals across the world. His personal site www.MikeGhouse.net indexes all his work through many links.

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TOTAL COMMENTS:-   14


  • Very enlightening article. You have done a great job of giving the true meaning of the Valentine day. Love love love to yourself and spread to others.  Thanks a lot for sharing.  Pathtoanandam.org
    By Satya kalra - 1/26/2014 2:18:45 AM



  • Dear Mike,

    One way or the other, your articles always touch my heart as much as they hit at the core of some key aspects of the Qur’anic message. Your view of expanding the scope of Valentine commemorating the love between the opposite sex to appropriate love for all those who are close to us and broader humanity is intrinsic to the Qur’anic pronouncement to being kind and affectionate to parents, relatives (qurba), orphans, and the needy; to the neighbor you know (qurba) and the neighbor who is a stranger, to the fellow by your side and the downtrodden (literally traveler who has no means to survive), and to all your employees and staffs. Surely God does not love the arrogant and the conceited” (4:36). It also bears with the steep path of the Qur’an, notably feeding during famine an orphaned relative, or the needy (lying) in the dust” (90:14-16), and several other Qur’anic injunctions. I fully endorse your redefinition of this term.  


    By muhammad yunus - 2/15/2013 10:20:40 PM



  •  Dear Mike Ghouse sahab 
    Thanks a lot for your blissful comment in order to promote love and peace. I will wait for that very nice occasion to have cordial discussion on the topic.   

    By GHULAM GHAUS غلام غوث - 2/15/2013 11:25:54 AM



  • Ghulam Ghous Saheb; I'm happy to hear that you love and want to serve your family, friends and Ummah (If prophet was born in India, his Ummah would have been every Indian, not just MUSLIMS) every day. That is noble of you.
    More than two thirds of world is not as blessed as you are. You ask the Indian Women, Hindu women, muslim women, sikh women, dalit women and women across the middle east...if they would like to have a day at least once a year, that they would be treated special... You know the answer.
    Islam is about love and peace, as Saaquib has mentioned, Islam is about rejoicing life in this world as well as the next, Islam is about enjoying life and expressing gratitude to the creator....what Islam is not is negation and restriction.
    Reason!  next year, we may begin a series of discussions on the topic at new age Islam
    By Mike Ghouse - 2/15/2013 10:05:33 AM



  • Dear Aiman Reyaz - 2/14/2013 8:12:04 PM
    I liked your comment. Goal is always time bound. We Muslims genearlly lack in.
    Ask a Muslim friend? Will you reach sharp at 9:00 PM. His answer will be Insha Allah. Though there is nothing bad saying this but it creates vagueness. The person asked is not sure whether he will reach or not. It depends on Allah. Where is our intellect? Why I can't I say I will be there at 9:00?

    By rational - 2/14/2013 9:16:15 PM



  • @Ghaus, although you have directed your comment to Mr Ghouse, let me give my view. You rightly state that love has no fixed date and we should celebrate love everyday. But fixing a date gives us a subconscious push to work towards achieving it. It is like I have fixed a target and I have to shoot it. Similarly fixing a date acts like a goal and we get the urge to achieve it. Vagueness like we should love everyday and giving and sharing our things to the needy will not lead to its fulfilment, according to me. But sir, I want to reiterate the question raised by Mr Hats off.
    By Aiman Reyaz - 2/14/2013 8:12:04 PM



  • Only Money flowing to Mekka is permissible.

    By rational - 2/14/2013 10:59:05 AM



  • People must have fun, it makes life worth living. you can't be praying and doing charity all the time. These "days" are good business. Money transfers from one pocket to the other, roses, cards, chocolates, restaurants, diamonds, cheap gifts,expensive gifts all get bought, sold and gifted. Why should anyone object? Let people live their lives as they want to, for God's sake. Without attaching any moral implications to it.

    We celebrate so many days. They bring joy and give a fillip to commerce. How does one more matter? 

    By secular logic - 2/14/2013 10:40:00 AM



  • what is immodesty? how is it measured? why is it important? where was it practiced? when was it breached?

    By hats off! - 2/14/2013 10:21:47 AM



  • what is immodesty?

    By hats off! - 2/14/2013 9:56:03 AM



  • Mike Ghaouse sahib, It is good what you write “Love has no bounds. Indeed, it’s a relationship of caring between husband and wife, mother and son, father and daughter, mother daughter, brother sister, brothers, sisters, friends, uncles, aunties, Granpa and Gramma, friends, and any one you care about.”
    Love has no fixed date. We should celebrate love day every day. I am talking about the genuine love that is for the mother, father, sister, brother, friend, neighbour and wife and husband. Why we fix the Valentine’s Day to do that. 
    This is also fact that the effects of this day are harmful because it leads to immodesty.
    It is also good to say “There is plenty in you that you can give by feeding the homeless, visiting lonely patients in the hospitals or nursing homes, disadvantaged women and children, our veterans... share whatever little you have with them including the time and just listening to them. When a homeless person asks, give whatever you can, that is the most affectionate thing to do, you will enrich yourselves far greater by sharing”.
    But all these virtues are not for a particular day but for every day as all these are the necessities of everyday life.
    By GHULAM GHAUS غلام غوث - 2/14/2013 9:20:43 AM



  • NAI has one article which says "Valentine Day" is un-islamic.
    By rational - 2/14/2013 9:00:01 AM



  • Thanks Janab Mike Ghouse Sb. Happy "Valentine Day" to you and to all the readers of New Age Islam. Islam is a religion of Love, Affection and Humanity, nothing more nothing less than this. 
    By Saaquib - 2/14/2013 2:39:10 AM



  • Mr Ghouse's articles have a "universal message". Lines like "There is nothing more peaceful than knowing yourselves" and " be content with what you have" remind me of Socrates and Buddha. Well done.
    By Aiman Reyaz - 2/14/2013 1:36:24 AM



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