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Islamic Ideology (12 Dec 2012 NewAgeIslam.Com)


Child Marriage is Not Allowed in the Quran

 

 

By Aiman Reyaz, New Age Islam

Every human is unique; each one has its own set of qualities. Some grow to over 6 feet tall while some desire to achieve even 5 feet; some are fair and some are brown; some attain puberty before 10 while some attain it after 13 or even 14. Our physical characteristics vary depending upon our genes and the environment in which we grow.

In hot climate, adolescence comes early and people marry early. One needs to understand that 1400 years ago was very different from now. Time and human, both have changed. It was common then to marry young girls, in fact they were not considered young girls, and rather they were considered young women. It is a historic fact that girls from the ages of 9 to 14 were being married in Europe, Asia, and Africa, in fact even in the United States girls at the age of 10 were also being married just about two centuries ago.

Aisha married to Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) when she was 6 but the marriage was consummated when she was 9. In Islam a female who undergoes puberty is considered a lady and is fit for marriage. Aisha probably attained puberty when she was 8 years old.

Premenstrual syndrome is a group of changes a girl may see and feel before her period. The girl may have headaches, dizziness, or feel sick to her stomach before her period. She may feel like crying more, feel a little sad, and feel more emotional about everything. PMS may cause a girl to retain (hold onto) water. Retaining water means that the body tries to keep more body fluid in before and during the period.

Sahih Bukhari Volume 5, Book 58, Number 234 says:

“Narrated Aisha:

The Prophet engaged me when I was a girl of six (years). We went to Medina and stayed at the home of Bani-al-Harith bin Khazraj. Then I got ill and my hair fell down. Later on my hair grew (again) and my mother, Um Ruman, came to me while I was playing in a swing with some of my girl friends. She called me, and I went to her, not knowing what she wanted to do to me. She caught me by the hand and made me stand at the door of the house. I was breathless then, and when my breathing became All right, she took some water and rubbed my face and head with it. Then she took me into the house. There in the house I saw some Ansari women who said, "Best wishes and Allah's Blessing and a good luck." Then she entrusted me to them and they prepared me (for the marriage). Unexpectedly Allah's Apostle came to me in the forenoon and my mother handed me over to him, and at that time I was a girl of nine years of age.”

 However, historical findings say that Aisha was about 19 years of age when she arrived in the house of the Prophet as his wife and the above quoted Hadith is doubtful as it goes against the teachings of the Quran and the Prophet.

In ‘Book of History’, volume 4, page number 50 Ibn Jazeer al-Tabari writes that Abu Bakr married two ladies in the days of ignorance. Fateelah, daughter of Abd al-Aza was the first and Umm-i-Rooman was the second, from whom Abd al-Rahman and Aisha were born. All the children of Abu Bakr were born in the days of ignorance.

Abd al-Rahman, son of Abu Bakr fought against the Muslims in the battle of Badr. His age was 21-22 years and he was older than Aisha; but the difference between their ages was not more than three to four years.

Sheikh Waheed-ud- Deen writes in his well-known book ‘Ahmal fi Asma al-Rajja’:

“At the time of the consummation of her marriage Syeda Aisha’s age was not less than 18-19 years.”

In Islam it is a must to accept all the terms and condition before marrying. In Islam, marriage is a written and legal covenant between two individuals who understand their responsibilities and duties. A child does not know about the intricacies of marriage and the burden of bearing a child. Both the parties should understand the details of the marriage and it is impossible for a child of say 6 or 9 years to have achieved the level of wisdom so as to be able to take mature decisions.

The following Hadith proves without a doubt that Islam does not allow child marriage:

The Prophet once said to us, 'O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry, and whoever is not able to marry, is recommended to fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power. (Translation of Sahih Bukhari, Volume 7, BOOK 62: Wedlock, Marriage (Nikah), Number 3)"

The Arabic word used here for Young people is (يا معشر الشباب, it means young grown up man and young grown up woman.

A grown up can only marry if he or she is ready: psychologically, socially, emotionally, and most important of all physically.

The recent news of Atgaa, 10 and her sister Reemya, 8, who are about to get married to men in their sixties is shocking. The following act not only goes against the Islamic teachings, it also goes against human dignity.

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TOTAL COMMENTS:-   24


  • disgusting.
    By steven - 9/21/2013 8:41:40 PM



  • Khalid Suhail, thank you sir for your kind words. 
    By Aiman Reyaz - 6/19/2013 7:11:40 PM



  • Aiman Reyaz Saheb,
    I highly appreciate your open heartedness

    By Khalid Suhail - 6/19/2013 10:20:42 AM



  • Khalid Suhail, thank you for the comment, I appreciate and endorse your views, though not all. After reading your previous comment again, instantly I was hit with this idea that although the girl/woman must wait for the prescribed time period; but the point to be noted here is that, here Allah is talking about remarrying and not marrying for the first time. It is important, before saying “kubool” (I accept), that you know all the intricacies of the responsibilities you will have to burden.

    The hadidth says “O young people”, the Arabic word used here is “يا معشر الشباب”, meaning one who is a grown up man or a woman (it is not sex-specific and “grown up” implies being mature mentally and physically.

    You say, “Instead I was trying to show, contrary to your claim, that when Allah prescribes the waiting period for  those girls who do not yet menstruate because they are still too young, It has the clear implication that Quran endorses marriage to and sex with minors “ Even if I agree with this argument then suppose Allah says “do not kill young boys/girls”, does it mean that you must/should kill adults/old people?

    However, I must congratulate with your views in the end, and I accept it and agree to it. 


    By Aiman Reyaz - 6/18/2013 5:18:27 AM



  •  Mr Aiman Reyaz,
    You said, " But I mus add that  for marriage, according to you, having menstruation is necessary" 
    I think You, perhaps, did not get the point. 
    The purpose of my comment was not to discuss hz Aaha's age at all. Instead I was trying to  show, contrary to your claim, that when Allah prescribes the waiting period for  those girls who do not yet menstruate because they are still too young, It has the clear implication that Quran endorses marriage to and sex with minors . You had claimed, " child marriage is not allowed in the Quran".
    Having said that, I am of the  openion that we must admit that there are many gender inequalities in the Quran because these Quranic injections  were in accordence with the prevalent customs of the 7th century Arabia. They can not be applied in today's world. The world is evolving but we are not. If we really want to give dignity to our muslim sisters, we must formulate new   laws according to the call of our times, especially those relating to human rights and gender equality, irrespective of what the scriptures say.  We can not bring about any change by just being  apologetic. This world is the result of our thoughts. Unless we change our thoughts, we can not change the world ( I mean, the muslim world). 
      

    By Khalid Suhail - 6/18/2013 3:24:40 AM



  • People who talk about the age of Ayesha at the time of her marriage, are least interested in child marriage issue, or the issue of a child getting married to an old person. They bring this issue to assert that Prophet Muhammad was a pedophile, and their this intent must be recognized at the very outset. Since they could not digest the influence of Islam, and have nothing  to show that Prophet was not a hero, they try to do his character assassination. They cannot have arguments about what one believes and their arguments fails when they focus on the idea of Islam, so they have nothing more left to do by trying to do defame and do false propaganda.
    Such people have always been there and such people will always be there. It is for those people that God has mentioned that their hearts are sealed. Their hearts are sealed because their intent which was clearly the product of their free will, was never to understand the idea of Islam, nor to accept the beliefs of Muslims on as it is basis. Had they done so and even after that had not felt convinced, God had given them a right to believe in what they believe, but it is their active participation in defaming the Prophet which brings them to confrontation with Muslims.
    The response of Muslims should be, to let them keep propagating whatever they feel like but not before asking them a forensic/admissible proof of its truth.
    Next, what a Muslim can do is keep counteracting the propaganda by not dwelling on the subject, but by the on-your-face aggression in showing that the Prophet remains a hero for them and not without reasons. The reasons must be cited repeatedly, so much to light the night sky. And yes they must refrain from character assassinating their Gods because this is what Prophet taught Muslims to refrain from. This particular teaching is also one reason why Muslims consider him a hero. And since it is indeed such a difficult task to refrain from slandering, perhaps only Prophet could have successfully done so and rest of the followers fail somewhere or the other.
    Character assassination is the biggest of crime as per the beliefs of Islam. Non-Muslims are not bound by this belief and Anti-Islamist are the ones who actively indulge in it.
    Such Anti-Islamists should not be argued with. They do not reason. They just hate. And since they do not reason, they think they hate the Prophet because he was hate-able, but no, they hate him, because they have hatred in their heart and they have chosen to hate him and burn themselves in jealousy. Upto them. They reap what they sow.
    By sadaf - 6/17/2013 9:46:26 PM



  • Aiman Riyaz I do acknowledge your upsetings with regard to the age of girls when they are sold for money and bought for the sexual pleasures of the criminally old and rich Muslim pleasure seekers with an arrogant approval of misinterpreted religious dogma.
    By afaqsiddiqi - 6/17/2013 6:31:00 PM



  • Khalid Suhail, first of all if you have not read the article, then please do because your comment focuses more on menstrual cycles and mine focused on not just physical maturity but also mental maturity. 
    However if you are not satisfied with the article's analysis then you go ahead and choose what you like. But I mus add that since for marriage, according to you, having menstruation is necessary, then I suppose you should have no problem in a marriage in which the girl is 6 or 7, but has attained puberty. 
    Mr Asfaqsiddiqui, yes there has been and there is a great amount of confusion regarding Aisha's age but we can't just ignore it because I cannot attribute this to our Prophet (pbut) and secondly and more importantly, Aisha's marriage (according to some at a very early age) gives a free hand to many old Muslim men (mostly rich Arabs) who marry really young girls and that is really upsetting to me. 

    By Aiman Reyaz - 6/17/2013 5:33:08 PM



  • Agree with Siddiqi Saheb. Ayesha's age at the time of her marriage should be of no interest to us. Our concerns must be education, jobs and moving away from sectarianism and extremism.
    By Ghulam Mohiyuddin - 6/17/2013 12:23:58 PM



  • The most absurd discussion about the age of Aiyesh has taken centuries and still it is at the same level of confusioon and and religious concern whereas the on Muslims are working on the physical conditions  of Mars and Saturn.
    What a great job Muslim "cynteest"
    are doing for the benefits of mankind!  Bravo!

    By afaqsiddiqi - 6/17/2013 9:12:22 AM



  • Mr Aiman Reyaz says,
    "Child Marriage is Not Allowed in the Quran" 
    I am sorry to say there is no truth in this claim.
     In Surah 65, at-Talaq (divorce),  Allah gives some rulings on  what has to be done in case of divorcing a wife. In particular, verse 4 specifies waiting periods that need to be observed before newly-divorced women can marry another man. This verse is problematic because together with prophet Muhammad's example of marrying a minor ('Aisha at age nine) it is the reason that Shariah law does not set a minimum age for marriage.
    This is correctly reflected in many English translations. Just a few are given here:
    Abdel Haleem writes in his tafseer:
    If you are in doubt, the period of waiting will be three months for those women who have ceased menstruating and for those who have not (yet) menstruated. And the waiting period of those who are pregnant will be until they deliver their burden: God makes things easy for those who are mindful of Him.
    Mufti Shafi Usmani writes in his tafseer " maariful Quran",
    And those women from among you who have despaired of (further) menstruation, if you are in doubt, their '‘iddah is three months, as well as of those who have not yet menstruated. As for those having pregnancy, their term (of '‘iddah) is that they give birth to their child. And whoever fears Allah, He brings about ease for him in his affair.
    The main purpose for the waiting period is for making sure who is the father of any child. The case of fertile women is covered in Surah 2:228 which prescribes to wait for three menstrual cycles, and gives the command not to hide a pregnancy. This present verse is concerned with the question of what to do when there is no menstrual bleeding and the assumption is that within three months it should become clear if a woman is pregnant, so that this time period is sufficient. Thus the verse has a clear structure: There are those for whom one does not really expect that they are pregnant – because they have either passed the age of monthly courses or not yet reached this age – and who are thus commanded to wait three (lunar) months. And then there are those women who are already pregnant. Their waiting period is until they give birth.
    The verse lists these women in three categories:
    (a) those who do no longer menstruate because they are already too old,
    (b) those who do not yet menstruate because they are still too young, and
    (c) those who do currently not menstruate because they are pregnant.
    That the phrase "and of those too who have not had their courses" refers to prepubescent girls is not only obvious from many modern translations of the Qur'an but it has been the traditional understanding and is stated explicitly in many classical source texts of Islam. For example,
    Tafseer ibn Kathir writes under the heading,
    "The `Iddah of Those in Menopause and Those Who do not have Menses", while commenting on the Quran 65:4 - "Those in menopause among your women, for them the `Iddah, if you have doubt, is three months; and ( the same) for those who have no courses".
    Allah the Exalted clarifies the waiting period of the woman in menopause. And that is the one whose menstruation has stopped due to her older age. Her `Iddah is three months.  The same for the young, who have not reached the years of menstruation. Their `Iddah is three months like those in menopause. This is the meaning of His saying;  (and for those who have no courses...).
    Ibn Abi Hatim recorded a  narration  from Ubay bin Ka`b who said,
    "O Allah's Messenger! When the Ayah in Surah Al-Baqarah was revealed prescribing the `Iddah of divorce, some people in Madinah said,
    "There are still some women whose Iddah has not been mentioned in the Qur'an. There are the young, the old whose menstruation is discontinued, and the pregnant.'
    Later on, this Ayah was revealed,


    By Khalid Suhail - 6/17/2013 8:33:21 AM



  • what a rhetoric!
    By rafique alam - 6/16/2013 11:50:48 PM



  • Roshna Isaac, thank you for the comment. I agree with your noble ideas. You say “Both the parties should understand the details of the marriage and it is impossible for a child of say 6 or 9 years to have achieved the level of wisdom so as to be able to take mature decisions...also if some culture still agrees for child marriage, then why a girl of 6 or 9 gets married to a man over 50 who is same age as her grandfather? why cannot she get married to a 10 year old boy?” You have already answered it in your comment itself: since both parties have to be mature then how come a 9 or 10 year old boy will be able to bear the burden of a “new family” (‘his’ family)? Anyways, let me emphasise that neither I nor does the Quran support child marriage.

    You say “how does a 6 year old girl is possible to understand the terms? Is that not against the word of Quraan?” I agree with you and in fact that article talks about the idea only.

    I hope this clears your doubt. By the way you yourself had already given the answer. 


    By Aiman Reyaz - 6/16/2013 6:47:07 PM



  • Rafique Alam, it was a rhetorical question to Rational Mohd Yunus. In case you don’t know (but according to the structure of your sentence, I assume that you know ) Aisha’s age is not mentioned anywhere in the Quran. And by the way, that comment of mine was intended to Rational Mohd Yunus only and was a reply to his comment.

     


    By Aiman Reyaz - 6/16/2013 6:40:57 PM



  • "If you can prove to me that you are Mr Mohd Yunus then I will prove it to you from the Quran that Aisha’s age was not 9 but 19."

    How can you prove from the Quran that she was 19?
    I am not younus or rational, so please answer that question and prove that. which verse says that?

    By rafique alam - 6/16/2013 6:39:33 AM



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