By Aiman Reyaz, New Age Islam
Every human is unique; each one has its own set of qualities. Some grow to over 6 feet tall while some desire to achieve even 5 feet; some are fair and some are brown; some attain puberty before 10 while some attain it after 13 or even 14. Our physical characteristics vary depending upon our genes and the environment in which we grow.
In hot climate, adolescence comes early and people marry early. One needs to understand that 1400 years ago was very different from now. Time and human, both have changed. It was common then to marry young girls, in fact they were not considered young girls, and rather they were considered young women. It is a historic fact that girls from the ages of 9 to 14 were being married in Europe, Asia, and Africa, in fact even in the United States girls at the age of 10 were also being married just about two centuries ago.
Aisha married to Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) when she was 6 but the marriage was consummated when she was 9. In Islam a female who undergoes puberty is considered a lady and is fit for marriage. Aisha probably attained puberty when she was 8 years old.
Premenstrual syndrome is a group of changes a girl may see and feel before her period. The girl may have headaches, dizziness, or feel sick to her stomach before her period. She may feel like crying more, feel a little sad, and feel more emotional about everything. PMS may cause a girl to retain (hold onto) water. Retaining water means that the body tries to keep more body fluid in before and during the period.
Sahih Bukhari Volume 5, Book 58, Number 234 says:
The Prophet engaged me when I was a girl of six (years). We went to Medina and stayed at the home of Bani-al-Harith bin Khazraj. Then I got ill and my hair fell down. Later on my hair grew (again) and my mother, Um Ruman, came to me while I was playing in a swing with some of my girl friends. She called me, and I went to her, not knowing what she wanted to do to me. She caught me by the hand and made me stand at the door of the house. I was breathless then, and when my breathing became All right, she took some water and rubbed my face and head with it. Then she took me into the house. There in the house I saw some Ansari women who said, "Best wishes and Allah's Blessing and a good luck." Then she entrusted me to them and they prepared me (for the marriage). Unexpectedly Allah's Apostle came to me in the forenoon and my mother handed me over to him, and at that time I was a girl of nine years of age.”
However, historical findings say that Aisha was about 19 years of age when she arrived in the house of the Prophet as his wife and the above quoted Hadith is doubtful as it goes against the teachings of the Quran and the Prophet.
In ‘Book of History’, volume 4, page number 50 Ibn Jazeer al-Tabari writes that Abu Bakr married two ladies in the days of ignorance. Fateelah, daughter of Abd al-Aza was the first and Umm-i-Rooman was the second, from whom Abd al-Rahman and Aisha were born. All the children of Abu Bakr were born in the days of ignorance.
Abd al-Rahman, son of Abu Bakr fought against the Muslims in the battle of Badr. His age was 21-22 years and he was older than Aisha; but the difference between their ages was not more than three to four years.
Sheikh Waheed-ud- Deen writes in his well-known book ‘Ahmal fi Asma al-Rajja’:
“At the time of the consummation of her marriage Syeda Aisha’s age was not less than 18-19 years.”
In Islam it is a must to accept all the terms and condition before marrying. In Islam, marriage is a written and legal covenant between two individuals who understand their responsibilities and duties. A child does not know about the intricacies of marriage and the burden of bearing a child. Both the parties should understand the details of the marriage and it is impossible for a child of say 6 or 9 years to have achieved the level of wisdom so as to be able to take mature decisions.
The following Hadith proves without a doubt that Islam does not allow child marriage:
The Prophet once said to us, 'O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry, and whoever is not able to marry, is recommended to fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power. (Translation of Sahih Bukhari, Volume 7, BOOK 62: Wedlock, Marriage (Nikah), Number 3)"
The Arabic word used here for Young people is (يا معشر الشباب, it means young grown up man and young grown up woman.
A grown up can only marry if he or she is ready: psychologically, socially, emotionally, and most important of all physically.
The recent news of Atgaa, 10 and her sister Reemya, 8, who are about to get married to men in their sixties is shocking. The following act not only goes against the Islamic teachings, it also goes against human dignity.
Suhail, thank you for the comment, I appreciate and endorse your views, though not
all. After reading your previous comment again, instantly I was hit with this
idea that although the girl/woman must wait for the prescribed time period; but
the point to be noted here is that, here Allah is talking about remarrying and
not marrying for the first time. It is important, before saying “kubool” (I
accept), that you know all the intricacies of the responsibilities you will
have to burden.
says “O young people”, the Arabic word used here is “يا معشر الشباب”, meaning one who is a grown up
man or a woman (it is not sex-specific and “grown up” implies being mature mentally
You say, “Instead I was trying to show,
contrary to your claim, that when Allah prescribes the waiting period for
those girls who do not yet menstruate because they are still too young,
It has the clear implication that Quran endorses marriage to and sex with minors “ Even if I agree with this argument then
suppose Allah says “do not kill young boys/girls”, does it mean that you
must/should kill adults/old people?
However, I must congratulate with your views in the end, and I
accept it and agree to it.
Roshna Isaac, thank you for the comment. I agree with your noble
ideas. You say “Both the parties should understand the details of the marriage
and it is impossible for a child of say 6 or 9 years to have achieved the level
of wisdom so as to be able to take mature decisions...also if some culture
still agrees for child marriage, then why a girl of 6 or 9 gets married to a
man over 50 who is same age as her grandfather? why cannot she get married to a
10 year old boy?” You have already answered it in your comment itself:
since both parties have to be mature then how come a 9 or 10 year old boy will
be able to bear the burden of a “new family” (‘his’ family)? Anyways, let me
emphasise that neither I nor does the Quran support child marriage.
You say “how does a 6 year old girl
is possible to understand the terms? Is that not against the word of Quraan?” I agree with you and in fact that article talks
about the idea only.
hope this clears your doubt. By the way you yourself had already given the
Rafique Alam, it was a rhetorical question to Rational Mohd
Yunus. In case you don’t know (but according to the structure of your sentence,
I assume that you know ) Aisha’s age is not mentioned anywhere in the Quran. And
by the way, that comment of mine was intended to Rational Mohd Yunus only and
was a reply to his comment.