By Shaimaa Elhomossany
November 9, 2018
In the materialistic world of nowadays, not
getting attached to results is easier said than done. We live in a world that
only values, respects, and applauds tangible results and achievements. If you
are not achieving, you are simply ‘not there’. Our minds and hearts have been
programmed to chase after and define everything with its achievement, including
ourselves. A man is well educated only through his degree, rather than his
knowledge. A calibre is competitive enough only through her resume rather than
her potential. An employee is evaluated based on his results rather than his
effort, and a man is validated only through his income, not through his
Consequently, our spirituality suffers.
Our relationship with Allah turned from a
relationship of servitude to that of benefits and expectations. We have started
worshipping Allah over what He does for us. If the outcome is as desired, we
are pleased with Him; however, if, God forbid, our prayers get delayed or
unanswered, we become very timid, and a gap starts forming – a gap of
frustration, denial, anger, blame and doubt. A gap that, if not dealt with, can
turn into a black hole that consumes our faith in Allah’s actions, wisdom and
eventually, in Allah altogether.
We need to understand that “results” do not
exist in our relationship with Allah. It is never a requirement, nor a defining
factor in the covenant we have with Him. Allah, entitled us to worship, not to
set expectations or judge His actions, and if results do come up anywhere in
this relationship, it would be Allah’s, not ours. He decides when and how.
Ibn Ata’ Allah said in his book of wisdom:
“Allah has guaranteed you a response in
what he chooses for you, not in what you choose for yourself, and at the time
he desires, not the time you desire.”
Allah knows more than anyone else
(including yourself) what is best for you. So do not get too attached to a
certain result and get deviated with an expectation that was never yours to
begin with. Do not doubt Him nor His plan, and be grateful for His provision
and be confident that you are in good hands.
To maintain a healthy relationship, we need
to understand our obligation towards this relationship so that we could
properly invest in it. Let’s not mix what society expects of us with what Allah
hold us accountable to. It is the society that defines our worth through
achievements, however, Allah asks us for pursuit. Do not get too overwhelmed in
proving your worth to creatures as weak as yourself seeking their validation,
instead, get yourself immersed in pleasing Allah seeking His satisfaction.
Perfect your pursuit and let go of the attachment to certain results, then you
can worry less.
We think that “things” are what we are
looking for, when in fact, it is what these “things” represent that wear us
out. We are not looking for money; we are looking for the security and autonomy
that money represents. We are not looking for a career; we are looking for the
sense of achievement it fulfils, and so forth. So, when you ask Allah for
something, be aware that what you are looking for is the meaning it carries.
Accordingly, when He provides you this meaning wrapped in a certain trial or
test, know that He answered you, only the label was different. Allah (swt)
“And it may
be that you hate a thing, while it is good for you; and it may be that you love
a thing while it is evil for you; Allah knows and you do not know.”
The Holy Quran, 2:216
Man’s ultimate pursuit is inner
satisfaction and peace, and that is only achieved through journeying inside
one’s heart and understanding the real wisdom behind Allah’s events. It is
never found around the corners of materialism. “Peace is in the heart of the
beholder, not in the unfolding of events”.
May Allah release the attachment of
outcomes form our hearts and guide us to our real pursuit, Amen.
Shaimaa is a computer engineer and student of Islamic studies based in
Egypt, with a lively interest in psychological and religious development. She
loves to combine psychology and modern human development techniques with
Islamic perspectives to help Muslims succeed in modern world while maintaining
a closer bond to Allah.